“If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” – RuPaul
Self-love. It’s hard. Not advertised (or is, but it involves buying yourself a $300 cream, getting drunk and vision boarding yourself into somebody else). And like any good relationship, it takes work.
This Valentine’s Day give as much love to yourself as you give to others. Treat it like the ‘ole putting-on your-own-oxygen-mask-in-the-airplane thing.
Here are 5 ways to show yourself some self-love this Valentine’s Day that might break with tradition:
- Ask for Help– Asking help for many of us feels weak, but offering help (aka, volunteering) is a societal sign of someone having all their sh*t together- right? WRONG. When we only offer help and not ask for it, we are diminishing and disempowering those in the position asking for help. We also weaken our own VERY HUMAN need to need other people. So seek help this Valentine’s Day. This could look like:
- asking a friend to come watch your kids who has offered a MILLION times but you don’t want to look weak so you don’t ever take them up on it…
- asking your partner, spouse, room-mate to help out a little more with chores around the house
- asking your boss for what you need. All those things you resent? Bring one or two of them up. They don’t know what they don’t know.
- if you can afford it, go to therapy! We go to the doctor to annually check up on our bodies- why don’t we do this more for our minds? It never hurts to have someone to listen to you. (and if you can’t, here are some lower cost options: https://themighty.com/2017/08/affordable-online-therapy-cheap/ )
- go to yoga. You knew we’d say it :). If you cannot afford therapy, yoga is the next best thing (and sometimes just as good!)
- Be alone– if you are someone who is around people all day (kids count too) maybe see if you can spend an hour alone. Go to dinner by yourself. Treat yourself to a movie. Do something where you can check in on you and you alone- even if it is for 30 minutes.
- Forgive Yourself– we all have our hangups of things we regret, what we view as our own shortcomings or imperfections that bog us down. We at Practice Indie believe (and native to the yoga practice), however, that even as imperfect as we are- we are enough. Make a list of all the things you are hung up about yourself on. Really look at them, THEN:
- Go stand in a mirror (naked if you’re feeling REALLY zesty)
- Read them aloud to yourself “I forgive myself for … (insert thing to let go of/ forgive yourself for)”. If this feels too woo-woo, have tea/ coffee with a friend and read it to them. Sometimes having someone listening can help us process even more.
- Let yourself really hear everything and absorb it. It may take lifetimes to actually forgive yourself, but this is a start.
- Burn or wash away the list.
- Take a bubble bath or an epic shower to wash away what was, and come clean into what is
- Invest in Yourself– Always wanted to go on that retreat? Apply to go to school? Do that online course? Get that massage (we know a gal). Do something this Valentine’s Day that deposits in your emotional/self-worth bank account.
- Let Yourself Eat Something That Brings You JOY– let yourself have a meal that you LOVE. Let yourself taste every flavor, savor every bite. Do not get hung up on calories or what you SHOULD be eating, choose something that feels good in your body and makes you feel amazing.
If someone doesn’t tell you this Valentine’s Day enough, hear it from us-
You are loved.
You are whole.
You are enough.
Happy Valentine’s Day. Be good to one another, y’all!