We are not made to be friends with everyone. We can display kindness to everyone and work towards having compassion towards everyone, but like everyone? Well, I just don’t think that is possible. While I am a firm believer in our ability as humans to be more alike than different, I also am a realist in that we cannot all sing “kumbaya” and hug everyone.
Everyone has someone who strikes them the wrong way, possibly even sucks the life out of them. This person, whether you like it or not, has made you better. They have helped mold you into the person you do NOT want to be. They have helped you learn lessons in struggle (with their personality or annoying habits), and also learn the important lesson of just letting go (you can’t change them, so move on).
Today, write this person a thank you- but DO NOT SEND IT TO THEM. Write out every reason they bother you, and conversely why that has contributed to you being better. Try not to be overly spiteful, just honest about how your differences make you improve. You may find that the things that you dislike about them so much are traits you possess as well. Maybe they aren’t so awful after all… Maybe in your dislike for this person you have over looked your similarities and focused on the differences.